BAGDIGESTS

  One day I complained to a friend about someone I could not stand. I listed all the things they did wrong, all the reasons I felt justified to dislike them. My friend just listened quietly and then said, “But what is one good thing about them?” I paused. I did not want to answer. But after thinking for a moment, I found one small thing. And somehow, that tiny good thing changed the whole picture. The truth is, nobody is 100% bad. - Some people are rough around the edges. - Some are fighting battles we know nothing about. - Some have made mistakes. But no matter how small, there is always something good in everyone, a kind gesture, a hidden talent, a soft heart, a moment of effort. When you choose to look for it, you begin to see people differently. Looking for the good does not mean you ignore wrong. It just means you refuse to let negativity be the only story you tell about someone. And sometimes, when you focus on the small good in people, that good begins to grow. Th...

  I remember the day my car broke down in the middle of the road, my phone battery was at low %, and rain started falling like the sky had a personal issue with me. For a few seconds, I felt that pressure rise in my chest. You know that feeling when something clearly surpasses your power? When you have done all you can and it is still not enough? Instead of shouting or blaming my village people… I just started laughing.  Not the “I’ve lost my mind” kind of laugh. The “wow, life really thinks it is funny” kind of laugh. Because sometimes, when something is bigger than you, stressing will not shrink it. Anger will not fix it. Worry will not solve it. So why not laugh? That laughter is not weakness. It is confidence. It is you telling life, “You may be bigger than me right now, but you will not break my spirit.” Some battles are above your pay grade. Some storms are not yours to control. When you see something that surpasses your power, burst into laughter. Not because...

 I once asked an old man in my area why some people never leave, even when everything around them is falling apart. He smiled and said, “Only two things keep people where they are…hate or hope.” That sentence stuck with me. I started looking around and realized it was true. Some people stay because they’re angry, bitter, & waiting to prove a point. Others stay because they believe something good is still coming. Hate will make you hold on just to fight. It will make you wake up every day with a heavy heart, trying to win battles nobody even sees. But hope? Hope makes you stay and build. It makes you endure hard days because you believe tomorrow can be better. Hate drains you. Hope fuels you. So the real question is simple: what is keeping you where you are right now? Is it the desire to hurt back, or the belief that things can improve? One will slowly destroy you. The other will slowly transform you. Choose carefully, because what keeps you, shapes you. ✌️